“Children of wrath” ways are lived at one's own expense even if there is often collateral damage. That is to be expected when one is driven to satisfy the cravings of the flesh with its thoughts and desires and deny one's identity as a handiwork of God designed to do good works. The trouble is transgressions and sins are easily identified in wanton ways but are not so easy to detect when hidden behind walls of self-righteous piety. To be saved by grace means those who know they are far from God and those who think they share a bathroom with the Almighty occupy the same room, which is to say, the place we neither design nor build so that "no one can boast." The truth that escapes us time and again is that the One who could return wrath for wrath is rich in mercy but as a remedy and not an excuse. What God believes, even if we don’t, is that love is the way wrathful hearts are warmed and hardened hearts are softened so that we all become as merciful as the one who loves both.